Now here is something that has always bothered me. The roles created for men and women in American society are so warped – especially when it comes to the roles men and women are expected to play as parents. I do not have a child yet (and will not until at least three years from now when I’ve completed law school), but I do have an idea of the complex relationship parents share, particularly parents who are no longer a couple.
Why is it that a man is expected to be financially supportive of his child and nothing more? Many women have this strange misconception of child support where they are under the assumption that once a man pays that he should just go on his merry way and not have anything further to do with his child. And God bless some men who have spouses and want to spend time with their children! It’s always, “I don’t want my child around your woman” or some lame excuse that keeps the man from his child. I wonder why it is that when a man doesn’t pay his child support, he’s thrown in jail but there is no legal objection – at least no immediate legal objection – to a woman not allowing a man to see his child.
Let us not forget the women who take the child support check and do not spend it on the child! They do their hair, their nails, buy new clothes. Then when something comes up where the child support money is actually need for (gasp!) the child, they come knocking on the doors of the fathers. And heaven forbid he does not give them more money. They will be right back at the court house demanding an increase in the amount of money they get because they just saw him buying his new woman a necklace.
And why is it that many mothers equate money with love? For example, how many of you have ever heard, “Your father does not love you because if he did he would pay such and such or he would give you x amount of money”? Do you know how screwed up that makes a child? If it’s a young girl, she begins to equate love with money and seeks out a mate solely for that purpose. She is also led to believe that if she is paid, then she is loved, irrespective of any ill treatment she may receive. If it is a young boy, he begins to believe that without money he is worthless and begins to look at men in a very negative light.
It’s just so funny how warped the entire system is. It has to be a summer day in December when a man is granted custody of a child. The circumstances have to be really dire for the child living with the mother for a court to even consider granting a man full custody, i.e. Britney Spears. I think that some of these women need to spend a day in the shoes of the men they torment and attempt to manipulate with their children. It’s unfair that most of the time it’s the men who want to be apart of their children’s lives or want to be a good father that are not allowed to do so.
I just wish some of these women would get a clue.
*alet alecia*
